wednesday night Step Questions
Step 1 We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
1) Do I accept that I cannot control another person’s drinking? Another person’s behavior?
2) How do I recognize that the alcoholic is an individual with habits, characteristics and ways of reacting to daily happenings that are different from mine?
3) Do I accept that alcoholism is a disease? How does that change how I deal with the drinker?
4) How have I tried to change others in my life? What were the consequences?
5) What means have I used to get what I want and need? What might work better to get my needs met?
6) How do I feel when the alcoholic refuses to be and do what I want? How do I respond?
7) What would happen if I stopped trying to change the alcoholic or anyone else?
8) How can I let go of others’ problems instead of trying to solve them?
9) Am I looking for a quick fix to my problems? Is there one?
10) In what situations do I feel excessive responsibility for other people?
11) In what situations do I feel shame or embarrassment for someone else’s behavior?
12) What brought me into Al-Anon? What did I hope to gain at that time? How have my expectations changed?
13) Who has expressed concerns about my behavior? My health? My children? Give examples.
14) How do I know when my life is unmanageable?
15) How have I sought the approval and affirmation from others?
16) Do I say “yes” when I want to say “no”? What happens to my ability to manage my life when I do this?
17) Do I take care of others easily, but find it difficult to take care of myself?
18) How do I feel when life is going smoothly? Do I continually anticipate problems? Do I feel more alive in the midst of crisis?
19) How well do I take care of myself?
20) How do I feel when I am alone?
21) What is the difference between pity and love?
22) Am I attracted to alcoholics and other people who seem to need me to fix them? How have I tried to fix them?
23) How do I trust my feelings? How do I know what they are?
Step 2 Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
1) What is my concept of a higher power at this time?
2) What would it take to allow my concept of my Higher Power to change?
3) Have past experiences affected my concept of a Higher Power? If so, how?
4) What do I hope to gain from accepting the concept of a Power greater than myself?
5) Do I sense spiritual guidance in my life?
6) How do I describe the Higher Power I found in Al-Anon?
7) What does “Let Go and Let God” mean to me?
8) What does faith mean to me?
9) With whom and in what circumstances am I comfortable discussing my spiritual experiences?
10) What might I gain from believing I could be supported and loved by a Power greater than myself?
11) What does “Came to Believe” mean to me?
12) What does sanity mean to me?
13) How has the alcoholic situation affected my sanity? My life?
14) Have I allowed the alcoholic situation to become my Higher Power? How?
15) How has my thinking become distorted trying to handle the alcoholic behavior?
16) How have I turned to a Power Greater than myself in times of great need? Did I call another Al-Anon member? My sponsor? Did I read Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature? Did I go to a meeting? If not, why not?
17) I working this step, can I describe a Step Two experience to my sponsor or my group? In a written sharing?
18) When have I done the same things over and over, yet expected different results?
